True Mom Confessions: Just Get Me to the Bathroom On Time!

Ever wonder why, as soon as you see that plus line on a pee stick, every woman you know who has had a bad pregnancy or a bad labor and delivery will simply not stop regaling you with tales of their trauma? It may be that they are secretly hoping that the same thing happens to you because they feel all alone in “throwing up all day, every day for nine months” or “tearing from here to here” or “pushing for thirty-six hours straight“. Or maybe, just maybe, they are trying to warn you! (Maybe both.)

Honestly, I have no reason at all for sharing today’s TMI confession, other than that I figure ladies without babies ought to know about one of the most common consequences of carrying an infant to term and then giving birth the old fashioned way. That would be INCONTINENCE, for those not in the know.

If you lose a little wee when you laugh too long and loud, you’re not alone. Polls show that a whopping 21% of women who give birth vaginally report bladder leakage to some degree. And that’s apparently right away. Wait twelve years and ask women again, and just over half of women reported urinary incontinence. Holy moly, you mean it gets worse and not better?!

incontinence after giving birth
So, all right then, maybe I should actually lay out my TMI confession, which is this… Following pregnancy and birth, yours truly joined that twenty-one percent of moms. I can just hear you now: GROSSSSSSSSSSS! Yeah, well, that’s the human body for you. Gross, indeed. Mama Nature is nothing if not disgusting! And it’s not like I’m sitting here wearing a pair of Depends undergarments as I write this. (Not that there’s anything wrong with that.) Urine is not actually spraying out of me at all times.
Do I pee when I lift heavy boxes?
Do I personally let loose a stream when I giggle?
Also no.

But I’ll be darned if I can make it to the bathroom in the middle of the night when Nature’s Call is particularly urgent without getting just a little leaky.

Grosssssssss, right? (Yes.)

But also more common than you might think! Remember, twelve years after having a baby via vag, half of all mamas report some degree of incontinence. It could happen to you, considering it wasn’t always an issue for me.

Once upon a time, my bedroom was right next to the bathroom. All I had to do was roll out of bed and stumble over to the toilet. In the dark? Not a problem. Worst that ever happened was that I found myself with a wad of cat puke under my heel. Now, I have to deal with the occasional 2 a.m. wardrobe change because getting to the toilet involves sprinting down stairs, opening a baby gate latch, and even sometimes undoing a baby safety toilet latch thing.

Aren’t you just soooooo glad you read this post? Ha ha, not.

Does this problem affect all mamas? Nope – not the exclusive c-section mamas who’ve never once pushed (since if you’ve done any pushing at all you’re still at risk) or the lucky half who just happen to avoid the curse in the long term – but lots of ’em!

Maybe someday science will figure out a way to repair or avoid pelvic floor trauma that does not involve a 100% c-section rate or the risks associated with trans vaginal mesh.Until then, I’ll be over here at my desk, doing my Kegels like a boss and crossing my fingers.




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