Delivery rooms are busy places these days. Used to be, you only had a crowd in there if you were expecting trouble. Like in addition to my midwife and a nurse and an OB, I had a team from the NICU ready and waiting to catch my preemie when she came into the world. With my second, no one anticipated any problems so the room was a lot less crowded. But the option to give birth in front of a standing room only audience was open to me, had I wanted that. The hospital I birthed in allows pretty much anyone to watch the show.
Besides husbands and partners, it’s no longer that uncommon for moms, mothers-in-law, aunts, sisters, uncles, brothers, and soon-to-be siblings to be in the delivery room. There’s no shortage of hands when it comes to holding the camera or doling out ice chips. Labor & delivery is becoming a spectator sport and there are plenty of potential spectators – including mom friends! Never considered inviting your bestie to be a part of your birth? Maybe these moms will change your mind with their reasons for inviting mom friends into the birthing suite:
“I decided to invite my best mom friend because I know she won’t expect me to talk to her and I won’t have to worry about staying calm for her. I know she will be there for me no matter what.”
“It wasn’t weird at all! I was in the room when my BF gave birth so of course she’d be in the room with me. She ended up having to wait outside because I had an emergency c-section but she was with me for most of it. When you’re in labor, no one is thinking about the fact that they have a clear view of your vagina. You’re all caught up in the miracle in front of you. She was actually a lot more helpful than my husband because she knew what I was experiencing and could help without passing out.”
“For my first I had my own mom, my husband, my father-in-law, and my best mom friend there. It was amazing to have all that support!”
“We’re a close family and my friends are like family so you better believe my delivery room was packed. My mother, mother in law, sister, sister-in-law, best friend, and my husband were all there. All I can say is thank goodness for them all! When the unexpected happened I needed them there to cry on and to pray with.”
“I was in the room when my best friend had her baby in May. What an amazing experience it was. To this day I am grateful she let me be a part of it and plan to invite her to my birth so she can be there with me.”
“Sometimes dads freeze up or pass out. I totally sympathize but if you’re not going to be all there I want to make sure I have back up. I was in the room when my best friend delivered and she was with me. She stayed and talked to me while my husband was with the baby (who needed to be taken to special care) and that meant a lot. It brought us closer together.”
“My BF was there for most of my delivery. It was awesome because there were points where my DH needed to go to the bathroom or to get a drink so I was never alone. She stayed with me, helping me focus so I never started to think I couldn’t do it. Having someone to relieve your DH is important.”
Do you have a mom friend that shares everything with you and vice versa? Don’t feel obligated to share your birth with her, even if you were in the delivery room while she labored. But don’t write off the possibility that your best mom friend might just be exactly who you want at your side when they tell you it’s time to push. Try to figure out what kind of support you think you’re going to want and to need, and make your decision based on that.
Who knows? It might just be the best mom’s night out of your life!